If you are one of those who think that physical appearance is all one needs to be considered attractive, you’re wrong. It can be considered as only one piece of the puzzle — a very miniature piece. With that said, there’s more to it. If you’ve ever asked yourself: “What qualities draw people in and create a magnetic appeal?”, then you’re in their right spot.
In fact, one of the qualities that is mentioned is actually one of the most sought after traits when building relationships with others — be it platonically or romantically.
This will give you an idea of the science behind attraction and hopefully you can utilize them to make you outshine the rest.
When you display confidence, you show others that you have faith in your own abilities. From a psychological perspective, confidence reflects a positive self-perception and self-assuredness (not in an arrogant way but in a quiet one). Also, building confidence is a reflection to others that you are more capable of handling challenges that come your way. All this make others feel more secured around you.
We all love it when we are being shown compassion to. It signals that one is caring and empathetic. Kindness is seen as a prosocial behavior (basically a behavior which is intended to help others) and engaging in such behaviors can elicit positive emotions like happiness for both the giver and the recipient. Also people who are kind are generally perceived to be more considerate which in effect, strengthens bonds.
The ability to make others laugh is a superpower. It creates an atmosphere of excitement, enjoyment, and bonding. Also in awkward situations, using humor in an appropriate way helps alleviate stress which makes your interactions more pleasant. In the long run, people become drawn to you because they associate you with a positive energy. It is probably a no brainer that psychology has also shown that it is a sought after trait when finding potential mates.
Communication is a crucial part of the human experience. It’s not all about expressing yourself clearly but also involves expressing interest in what others have to say (we all love it when others make us feel heard). Using these hand in hand is the perfect recipe for building and growing connections. Furthermore, investing time in building communication skills makes you appear more approachable which means, you’ll intrinsically become more attractive in social situations as well.
Not to call anyone out but this is something we’ve all struggled with at some point. Being true to yourself rather pretending to be someone you’re not carries more benefits. Why? Staying true to yourself helps attract people who relate more to you which makes it easy to connect with them on a deeper level. Also people admire those who are willing to share their true feelings or thoughts. It shows that you have a strong sense of self-acceptance — because you’re comfortable with who you are — which can be super attractive to people.
There you have it. Improving on these will definitely provide a tremendous amount of growth and make your relationships more meaningful as well.
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