It’s easy to spiral down the trap of negative self-talk the moment we face adversity. Negative self talk only makes us feel worse about ourselves and affects our self-esteem and demotivates us.
To make matters worse, it changes our perception of life for the worst. Here are some common negative self-talk to avoid and what you should do instead.
Thinking you’ll “never be happy again”
Why it’s destructive: This statement exaggerates the current situation and assumes a permanent state of unhappiness.
What to do instead: Acknowledge that emotions are temporary and allow yourself to seek and experience moments of joy, even amidst difficulty.
Thinking you’re “better off alone”
Why it’s destructive: Isolation can worsen negative emotions and prevent you from seeking help.
What to do instead: Connect with supportive people. Sharing your feelings can provide comfort, and the fresh perspective.
Thinking you’ll “never succeed”
Why it’s destructive: This statement assumes a future outcome based on current difficulties.
What to do instead: Challenge negative predictions. Focus on setting achievable goals and celebrate even small successes.
Thinking things “will never get better”
Why it’s destructive: This thought dismisses the possibility of improvement or change.
What to do instead: Embrace a growth mindset. Remember that challenges are opportunities for growth and change.
Thinking you “can’t do anything right”
Why it’s destructive: This statement focuses solely on perceived failures and ignores your accomplishments.
What to do instead: Recognize your achievements, no matter how small, and challenge negative self-evaluations.
Thinking you “a burden to everyone”
Why it’s destructive: This thought assumes others see you as a burden, which may not be true.
What to do instead: Communicate your feelings with trusted individuals who can provide a more realistic perspective on your relationships.
Thinking you’re “a failure”
Why it’s destructive: Labeling yourself as a failure overlooks your achievements and growth.
What to do instead: Practice self-compassion and recognize that setbacks are a part of everyone’s journey.
Thinking you’re “worthless”
Why it’s destructive: This statement devalues your self-worth and contributes to a negative self-image.
What to do instead: Remind yourself of your strengths and positive qualities. Focus on self-compassion and recognize your inherent value as a person.
Thinking that you “deserve the pain”
Why it’s destructive: This belief can lead to self-blame and further emotional distress.
What to do instead: Practice self-compassion and recognize that everyone faces challenges; it doesn’t mean you deserve pain.
Thinking that nobody “cares about you”
Why it’s destructive: This thought isolates you and minimizes the potential for support.
What to do instead: Reach out to trusted friends, family, or a counselor. Remind yourself of the people who care about you and your well-being.
There you have it. I hope my goal was accomplished and I wish anyone who took the time to read this, the best of luck.